I definitely feel more free now that I'm in my 40's. Like, "I'm a weirdo, if you don't like it that's your problem, not mine!" I might have said I knew that before but now I feel it!! It makes being me a lot free-er!
Ain't that the truth? I've said things like that, too, for years, but I really did care a lot if people didn't like me. I still care if the people I love like me ;), but I care less if EVERYONE likes me, because it's literally impossible. And if someone likes a you that isn't really you...that's actually pretty lonely.
Oh wow. I want to print this and put it in my journal as a reminder! I have been in pretty intensive therapy since 2018 after a significant loss (that brought up grief from a very significant childhood loss), and feel like I am coming into daylight again after losing my mom in early 2023. I definitely tend towards reflection and melancholy, and have started to realize that God does not ask me to constantly be working through Hard Things. The tricky part is that I have been in the working-through-things phase for so long that now I’m quite perplexed at how NOT to, and invite more fun into my life. Having a very spirited, creative daughter definitely helps. 😊
Fully inhabiting our humanity--YES. I’ve been thinking of it this way these days: I want things that get me as close as possible to the human experience. That includes meditation and being present to grief but it also includes margaritas and dance parties. Love this post, Faith.
I definitely feel more free now that I'm in my 40's. Like, "I'm a weirdo, if you don't like it that's your problem, not mine!" I might have said I knew that before but now I feel it!! It makes being me a lot free-er!
Ain't that the truth? I've said things like that, too, for years, but I really did care a lot if people didn't like me. I still care if the people I love like me ;), but I care less if EVERYONE likes me, because it's literally impossible. And if someone likes a you that isn't really you...that's actually pretty lonely.
Ah! I love this reflection. I'll join in on the dumb and fun any. time.
The dumber and funner, the better.
Oh wow. I want to print this and put it in my journal as a reminder! I have been in pretty intensive therapy since 2018 after a significant loss (that brought up grief from a very significant childhood loss), and feel like I am coming into daylight again after losing my mom in early 2023. I definitely tend towards reflection and melancholy, and have started to realize that God does not ask me to constantly be working through Hard Things. The tricky part is that I have been in the working-through-things phase for so long that now I’m quite perplexed at how NOT to, and invite more fun into my life. Having a very spirited, creative daughter definitely helps. 😊
Fully inhabiting our humanity--YES. I’ve been thinking of it this way these days: I want things that get me as close as possible to the human experience. That includes meditation and being present to grief but it also includes margaritas and dance parties. Love this post, Faith.
Yes! This is my whole thing: the full human experience. Everything that makes us more human. Margaritas and dance parties: 100%.